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Wedding Ceremonies In Cumbria, the lake district, & southwest scotland
What Can You Tell Me About Your Wedding Ceremonies?
Firstly, it may be important to you to know about the style of ceremony created by me.
I am able to be flexible about the style as people differ widely in their beliefs and requirements.
If conducted in a humanist style, there would be no mention of the divine, Spirit, God etc, or any reference to an alternative reality that exists outside of this one. Your friends and family are your witnesses and what is valued in our world is upheld and recognised. It would still be possible to have readings of divine or religious poetry or from the scriptures of one of the faith paths.
You might prefer a more religious style if one or both of you practices a faith, or if you belong to families where religious beliefs are important. So, you could make your vows ‘before God’, and include traditional prayers, readings and even hymns if you would like to.
Alternative spiritualities can also be accommodated with appropriate elements as desired. I have officiated a number of ceremonies as a wedding celebrant in Cumbria and South West Scotland, and I am here to discover the perfect ceremony for you.
Over time I have found that couples’ preferences for the type of ceremony they would like can be very varied, according to their style and beliefs.
Do We Have to Use Set Words in Our Ceremony?
There are no set rituals or words used by me to celebrate and consecrate your marriage, and this means that you have the freedom to create a ceremony to suit you, and I am here to help you do that.
At your wedding you can celebrate your own individuality, and also be married in a way that harmonises those particular cultures that have formed and influenced each of you and your families and friends. Sometimes this is very important, if for example the two of you come from very different backgrounds or cultures. Whatever is important and distinctive about your life and your relationship, you can have a ceremony that reflects that and truly feels meaningful and personal to you.
Can We Have Just A Simple Ceremony?
Your wedding can be a brief, straightforward, no-fuss ceremony that is perfect for a couple who tends to see their wedding as a private and personal affair, with the understanding that perhaps ‘less is more’. However, your vows, the blessing and a reading may be personalised, and you can include prayers and mentions of particular family members or friends. A ring blessing is usually included too and, of course, the ‘Pronouncement’ that you are married – this is an important condition of your legal wedding in Scotland, and if in England, when you will take part in a separate legal wedding process, we will of course still be making something important of the thrilling nature of this event!
Can You Conduct a Legal Marriage?
Your Marriage in England
The marriage ceremony that I create and hold for you in England will not be your legal marriage service. It will be a ceremony of celebration and/or blessing and the great thing is that it can take whatever form you wish, formal or informal, in whatever venue – a hotel, in your or someone else’s home or garden, or out of doors in some other natural setting – wherever you like and with as many or as few witnesses and guests as you like!
To make your marriage legal you will need to attend your local register office on a separate occasion, and there you will exchange some formal words of commitment with your partner and sign the marriage register along with two witnesses. You will be required to give notice at the register office at least 28 days before your marriage and take certain documents with you to show evidence of your name, age and nationality, and give proof of your current address. If you have been divorced or widowed you will also need to take the relevant documents demonstrating your status and eligibility for marriage.
For further information on Marriage in England, please click here to download an information sheet.
Your Marriage in Scotland
As an Interfaith Minister I am categorised by the Registrar General of Scotland as a Non-Conformist Minister who can legally conduct your wedding in Scotland.
My responsibility is to ensure that legal requirements are met within the ceremony regarding the vows and commitment you make to each other. After the vows are made, I will pronounce you married, and then ensure that the marriage papers are signed correctly by yourselves and your witnesses.
However, you will be responsible for ensuring that all legal requirements are met regarding the registration process for your marriage. This involves each of you filling in a M10 form and submitting it with the necessary documentation to the Register Office closest to the venue where the wedding will take place. From this information, once processed, your Marriage Schedule will be made up. This is the Schedule to be signed on the day and it should be picked up in person by one of you from the local Register Office within 7 days of the ceremony and returned to that Office (by you or someone you can rely on) within 3 days afterwards.
Once you have made your application you will be guided by the Registrar. However, you cannot start this process until 3 months of your marriage date, and it must be done by at least 29 clear days beforehand. I believe this information to be correct as of April 2019, but please remember it is your responsibility to ensure that the legal requirements are met, and you will find it helpful to make yourself aware of what will be required as soon as possible. For further information here is a link to the National Records of Scotland Office (http://www.nrscotland.gov.uk/registration/getting-married-in-scotland/how-do-i-go-about-it).
One difference between the laws regarding marriage in Scotland (compared with the law in England) is that it is the person who is authorised to conduct the marriage, and not the premises. This means that you do not necessarily have to hold your wedding in Scotland in a place that has been particularly designated as a wedding venue (known as ‘approved premises’ in England) if you choose me (or another authorised minister of religion) to conduct the ceremony. It gives you more freedom of choice as to the location of your wedding, and I would be delighted to conduct your ceremony out of doors or in your home or wherever you might choose (with the permission of the owner of the land/property, of course).
If you have any more questions about my wedding celebrant services in Cumbria and Dumfries & Galloway, please get in touch.